They Do Things Differently

If you are a Black Tech entrepreneur or if you are a Black entrepreneur, you should already know about Founder Gym. In case you don’t know who they are, allow us to introduce you. Founder Gym is an online training centre for underrepresented founds who want to build successful startups. Now you might be thinking that there are so many “boot camps” out there claiming to do the same for entrepreneurs. This is not the case with Founder Gym. They are not claiming anything. They are letting their work and past graduates’ successes do the talking.

Why are we bringing you information about Founder Gym? Well, let’s just say that we are excited that one of our Black brothers could be a part of the new Cohort that Founder Gym has just opened up. If you are out there and you are working on your tech startup, you need to apply for Founder Gym’s Cohort 5 or its Cohort 6 which is for Black entrepreneurs only.

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Mandela SH Dixon.Courtesy of foundergym.com

If you would like to find out more about the cohorts, jump on over to Founder Gym and see for yourself. Obviously, we are not going to promote something we’re not being paid for without a solid reason.

 

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Cordelro Brown. Courtesy of foundergym.com

That reason is our brother Cordelro Brown, the Digital Engagement Associate at Founder Gym. We love the CEO and Founder Mandela SH Dixon for all she’s doing to promote and uplift the Black experience, but we are even more excited about the seats she’s making open at the table for our Black brothers.

The Journey Begins

If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together — African Proverb

 

Now is our time. Our fathers have fought, and they are no more. Legacies of dreams had.  Seats unrelinquished. Voting cries, fallen dynasties. Our path has been flawed with countless obstacles that those who came before us have had to overcome. They did not do it for themselves brothers. No, they did all that for us. You might be thinking why would this be titled The Journey Begins. Well, brother, the path has always been there for us. However, we have been celebrating the journey of those who came before us.

We celebrate the journeys of Mandela, King Jr., X, Owens, Tutu, Douglass, Achebe, Tambo, Du Bois, and others. We exalt in their legacies and talk about continuing them. But is that what they wanted? Did they want us to just maintain their legacies or did they fight for us to get the opportunity to use them and create our heritage? These are the kind of questions we at Black Men Who Blog ™ LLC want you to help us answer. Let’s just think back to the days of Mandela’s imprisonment, what would you have done then? Would you have been as forgiving as he was? Or would you have taken the first opportunity to exact your revenge on those who wronged you?

Mandela did not just forgive his accusers, he became an icon. He became more than his station. Yes, he was a president, but he was also more. He became the presidents’ president. Brother, if you have taken the time to read this, we want you to realise that you are more than just a content creator and this platform is more than just community. You have the potential to change everything. Heavy? Maybe. But we urge you to look beyond your self-imposed station and see how your actions, creations, and being can change the world around you.

The journey has begun. Our fathers have created a path, and they are no more. Today, you stand at the precipice of greatness, unsure of which way to go. Your indecisiveness is not your weakness for all man is indecisive at one time or another. No brother, your greatest weakness is believing that you can do it all by yourself. You leave your brothers behind because they fail to meet your criteria of what it means to be part of your community. You have created a prison for yourself that you believe is your standard. So, you keep them out to protect you. The time has come for us to realise that our fathers fought so we could stop creating our own prisons. Their fight was not to oppress our oppressors. Their match was not to make them admit their wrong. A wolf will forever be a wolf no matter how much the sheep accuses him of murder.

A lion amongst wolves without its pride will forever be timid. Brother, you are a lion. We are your pride. So, if you would like to know why a company, a platform, a community, a family is stepping outside the norms of what businesses should be like, our answer is simple. You are not normal. You are a Black Man. Feared for everything that is you. Come along on this journey and be a part of the new path that we will create.

The Journey Begins.

Ish

Founder/CEO

 

The Question About Respect (Dr Gneiss)

Dr Gneiss’ Take

  • What do you wish women knew about Masculine respect?

That it is a key element in a relationship, just as much as feminine respect. Some men don’t need the affirmation to the respect because their confidence is self-driven, however, there are some that need to see the display of respect for their relationships to run smoothly. Men should within reason relay what is important to his spouse/girlfriend what and how he will interact with her within a relationship…what his responsibilities will be, what role he will want to take on. This should be discussed and agreed upon. After the agreement is made to respect each other’s roles, that agreement should be respected.

  • What does it mean to you? (What is respect?)

Respect to me is an acknowledgement that I matter, that others matter. We should respect opinions, rules, standings and other facets of a person’s personality. As long as something is civil it should be respected, not always agreed upon, but respected.

  • How can we show it? How can we honor you in a way that makes you feel respected?

Listening and allowing the accommodation space for a man to work.  I understand women have their needs as well and do my best to be sensitive to them. Men need the exact same thing, people need it in general. I think that a genuine appreciation satisfies the honor a man should need. Being a man to me is all about fulfilling my duty as male, protector, spouse, and citizen…I want to be able to do my part without too much push-back.

The Question About Respect (Mr Ganda)

Ish’s Take

  • What do you wish women knew about Masculine respect?

I wish women knew that masculine respect has nothing to do with being macho. In other words, we do not necessarily need respect to be men. It is not about stroking our egos because most of us can do that ourselves. It has to do with the fact that we are humans. Society already has tons of ideas of what it means to be men. We don’t want the women in our lives to become part of the proverbial them. We are always learning how to be better men so work with us. Help us accept the things we fail to and encourage us to change what we must. Please, keep in mind that we do not have the gift of insight at least when it comes to the female psyche so do not assume we know when things are wrong. You deserve our respect every step of the way and do not forget to remind us of that. To, that is what masculine respect is all about.

  • What does it mean to you? (What is respect?)

A few years ago, I do not think I would have been able to tell you what respect meant to me. I’m not saying that I did not have a definition for respect. It’s just not what I believe now. So, to answer the question, Respect to me means honesty. If I respect you, I have to be honest with you by showing you the true me. I might not like what you have to say but I would rather you be honest with me. This is coming from someone who has had his struggle with being honest.

  • How can we show it? How can we honor you in a way that makes you feel respected?

All I ask is that we get our time. Give us men, our time. We hurt too, we get emotional too, and despite all the rumours, we are not dogs. I don’t know how many times men around the world have to listen to someone making a statement along the lines of you men, or all men do this and that. Whenever a man tries to explain himself, he is met with the generalisation shut down. Let me get my time to say my piece. I don’t plan on changing your stance, I just want my time to share mine.

The Question About Respect (C.J. Guy)

C.J. Guy’s Take

  • What do you wish women knew about Masculine respect?

The only thing I wish women knew or understood is only real men (not the proverbial F boys) can describe what masculine respect is. It is very important for a man to feel like a man…we get this partly from the women around us and how they make us feel.

  • What does it mean to you? (What is respect?)

Respect is valuing my role, concerns, accepting who I am, and my judgement as the man of the household. Respect is a mutual and easy aspect in healthy relationships when everyone understands their role.

  • How can we show it? How can we honor you in a way that makes you feel respected?

The best way to honor or show respect is to value his judgement and acknowledge the value of his opinion to decisions in the household. This does not mean you have to acquiesce, far from it, it just means take his judgement into consideration…we love that…we feel valued.

The Question About Respect (Regg)

Regg’s Take

  • What do you wish women knew about Masculine respect?

I wish women knew more than what they learn about men on TV, or through media outlets. Understanding men as people would lead women to a greater mutual respect both or and from men. I want women to understand there is no single definition of masculinity. Expectations and preconceived notions that women bring to the relationship annihilate many men.

When I was first married, my now ex-wife, had plenty of ideas about what she thought married life and relationships would be. The attempt to align and understand the love language between the sexes is what facilitates the breakdown of relationships. The longer it takes to figure it out, the wider the expanse becomes.

  • What does it mean to you? (What is respect?)

Respect is a mutual behavior. It’s the authentic act of displaying your care through words and deeds. It is a continuous cross-functional behavior that impacts all aspects of personal/interpersonal relationships. From feelings to communication, consideration, and expectations.

Respect based decisions and interactions determine how we receive your intentions. The level of respect between individuals determines the how they receive your intentions, your words, and even your kindness. If I do not respect a person, even their good deeds are suspicious. Copious amounts of respect should always be deployed in romantic relations if there any is any hope of longevity and mutual affection.

  • How can we show it? How can we honor you in a way that makes you feel respected?

Listening and allowing the accommodation space for a man to work.  I understand women have Clearly, there are all sorts of ways to show honor and respect. In fact, respect is as various as personality. Think about your partner and how they receive information from others. Use what you know about them, previous conversations you about others, unrelated gripe sessions, or scenarios that impressed them.

Everyday situations will give you guidance to understanding. Honor yourself. Always be an asset to your team. My partner respects me by showing the world her best self and having respect for herself. Lastly, I feel respected when you honor my desires, dreams, and aspirations. We can’t grow together without mutual honor and respect.